The Color of the Year - 2011

I can't believe how fast 2010 has come to an end and it has been a year since my posting on the 2010 color trend! Well, the New Year is here and Pantone has announced the Pantone 2011 color of the year! It is the PANTONE 18-2120 Honeysuckle!

Pantone says that it is "A Color for All Seasons! It is Courageous. Confident. Vital. A brave new color, for a brave new world. Let the bold spirit of Honeysuckle infuse you, lift you and carry you through the year. It's a color for every day – with nothing “everyday” about it."

They further state that while the 2010 color of the year, PANTONE 15-5519 Turquoise, served as an escape for many, Honeysuckle emboldens us to face everyday troubles with verve and vigor.

A dynamic reddish pink, Honeysuckle is encouraging and uplifting. It elevates our psyche beyond escape, instilling the confidence, courage and spirit to meet the exhaustive challenges that have become part of everyday life. "In times of stress, we need something to lift our spirits. Honeysuckle is a captivating, stimulating color that gets the adrenaline going – perfect to ward off the blues," explains Leatrice Eiseman, executive director of the Pantone Color Institute. "Honeysuckle derives its positive qualities from a powerful bond to its mother color red, the most physical, viscerally alive hue in the spectrum."

Some Suggestions from Pantone:

Wedding Apparel
A flattering hue for wedding attendant apparel and accessories, Honeysuckle is now one of the nearly 200 PANTONE WEDDING Colors available from Dessy, a leading manufacturer of bridesmaid, social-occasion and flower-girl dresses.

Fashion
Honeysuckle always works with the standard basics of black, navy, charcoal or light to mid gray. But using complementary bronze greens like Willow PANTONE 16-0632 and/or Tapenade PANTONE 18-0840 adds a new sophistication to the combination that showcases the energy of Honeysuckle. The green tones can be really interesting in accessories for Honeysuckle tights and top. Another great and unique combination is Honeysuckle with a pinkish brown like Apricot Brandy PANTONE 17-1540. Think of a warm cashmere turtleneck in Apricot Brandy with a matching skirt and shoes to blend and flatter the legs. A Honeysuckle cashmere scarf and belt create a luscious combination. And to blend all the colors, try a big and bold patterned bag with every color mentioned above.

Paint
Honeysuckle is one of 3,000 colors available in Pantone's line of superior-quality, eco-friendly paint. PANTONE Paints combine the accuracy of PANTONE Colors with the beauty of high-performance Dutch paints.

Home Interiors
Honeysuckle is upbeat and dynamic when used on large areas like the entry area of a house or an apartment. It is an appetite and conversation stimulant when used on the dining room walls. In the kitchen, it adds a fun touch on the table in placemats and other linens (patterned or solid), colored glassware, candles and small appliances. Honeysuckle is a great color to cover up shabby kitchen cabinets, or, if that's too much of a color statement for you, try repainting knobs and drawer pulls. But be warned – once you try this arresting shade, it can become addictive.

Packaging
Honeysuckle is an excellent packaging color for products that speak to something active or festive, or are suggestive of sweet tastes and scents. It’s an especially good shade for delicious food or drink packaging. The name Honeysuckle is evocative of these perceptions.

Congrats!

Since Christmas and New Years are popular times for engagements we want to take this opportunity to say: "Congratulations to all the future brides!"

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As you switch from your holiday planning to wedding planning, remember we are here to assist you in any way we can and will be ready to dive right back into the swing of things after the holidays!

Outside of our meticulous planning services see all the other great products Events2Remember has to offer.

All the best!

Great Global Destinations

In the November issue of M&C Magazine, Michael C. Lowe suggests the following 5 hot international cities to consider for your next destination event because they have seen recent developments in infrastructure, renovated hotels, meeting venues and transportation options. He also stated that planners will find myriad deals and affordable attractions to help keep budgets under control.

1. Cape Town, South Africa: http://www.southafrica.net
Cape Town sits on South Africa's southwestern coast with the Atlantic Ocean on one side and 3,562-foot-high Table Mountain on the other. This second most populous South African city is an international business hub with rugged wilderness around the corner.

Why Now? Because since she recently hosted the 2010 World Cup, Cape Town is bristling with new hotels and a citywide room count of around 32,000 including a strong infrastructure for meetings and convention at the currently expanding Cape Town International Convention Center. The city has held the International conference and Convention Association's top ranking spot for global gatherings in Africa and the Middle East for the past two years.

2. London, England: www.visitlondon.com
England's capital city is bursting with attractions ranging from the venerable Buckingham Palace to the vertiginous London Eye Ferris Wheel and to the ever-increasing supply of excellent hotels with state-of-the-art meeting facilities.

Why Now? Because in 2012, London will host the Olympic Games (for a record third time) and
where more than US 17 billion worth of development is taking place.

3. Riviera Nayarit, Mexico: www.rivieranayarit.com
Found about midway down Mexico's western coast. This scenic region begins at the large, modern city of Nuevo Vallarta in the south and meanders up some 190 miles along the Pacific Ocean to the city of San Blas in the north. She offers pristine beaches, quaint fishing villages, eco-tourism excursions and more.

Why Now? This booming stretch of beautiful coast-line was dubbed the Riviera Nayarit just four years ago and is coming into its own as a tourism destination. They are planning to add 756 new hotel rooms this year and an additional 10,000 before 2015.

4. Dublin, Ireland: www.meetinireland.com/us
Medieval, Georgian and modern architecture coexist in beautiful contradiction in Ireland's capital. This bustling port city on the river Liffey is studded with landmarks, museums, art galleries and pubs, while just a few minutes away are seaside villages and rolling hillside.

Why now? With its three yearlong (and counting) economic struggle unfolding at the same time, some 3,000 new hotel rooms came online in the capital city, one result has been that nightly hotel rates in Dublin fell by 7 percent in the first six months of 2010 making it surprisingly affordable for groups.

5. Hyderabad, India: www.hicc.com
The capital of the Indian State of Andhra Pradesh in south-central India, Hyderabad is a relatively new destination for corporate travelers but has a rich 400-year history. The city is home to the Hyderabad International Convention Center, India’s largest, with a 65,750-square-foot main hall for up to 5,000 delegates and 32 additional meeting rooms. Adjacent is the 287-room Novotel Hyderabad Hotel, which opened in 2006.

Why Now? The city has been dubbed "Cyberabad" thanks to its thriving IT, biotechnology and pharmaceuticals industries. A burgeoning hotel sector has 12 new properties coming online in the next year, adding a total of 1,960 rooms to the city's skyline; with room rates generally remain reasonable. The city's many charms have been drawing events such as The International Congress and Convention Association's 49th annual Congress and Exhibition, held last October.

See the November 2010 issue of M&C Magazine for the full article.

Not-So-Big Wedding Recap

The 2010 Not-So-Big Wedding Boutique and Challenge at the beautiful Rockwood Manor in Potomac, MD was a tremendous success and very well attended! The weather was fabulous and the teams did a fantastic job! The scores, which were based on a scale of 1 to 10, were very close.

Congratulations to Team Cinful lead by Cindy Jacobs who took the 1st prize with a total score of 58.50. The 2009 Challenge winner Team Carnevale, led by Janice Carnevale of Bellwether Events took the 2nd prize with a total score of 52.50 and in 3rd place was Team Cannon led by Kelley Cannon of Kelley Cannon Events with a total score of 48.25.

Take a look at some of the highlights!

NSBW 2010!

Rockwood Manor, Potomac MD

The beautiful premises.

Beautiful dresses!

The panel of judges!

The winners - Team Cinful!

2nd place - Team Carnevale                                 3rd place - Team Cannon

The Captains - Team Cannon, Team Cinful, Team Carnevale

All pictures courtesy of Photography by Alexander.

To see more, please visit the event's website. Looking forward to next years' NSBW!

Not-So-Big Wedding 2010

Calling all MD, DC, VA area brides and grooms! Don’t miss out! The Second Annual Not-So-Big Wedding 2010 Challenge is here! This is a FREE event open to the public. RSVP on the Not-So-Big Wedding website for your chance to receive $500 off a venue rental. However, no RSVP is required to attend!

About the Challenge:

12 Teams comprised of up to four vendors will be working together to create a wedding for $15K or less for 65 guests. They are vying for the grand prize -- $500, media spotlight, and the Not-So-Big Wedding Challenge Winner title for 2010. If you're looking to plan a wedding on a budget, this is the event for you! Come see each team's display and gather a wealth of information for your wedding!

Each package created must include all the costs associated in the production of a wedding such as a planner, caterer, Deejay or band, florist, photographer, rentals etc. and must include the rental of one of the Montgomery Parks facilities: Rockwood Manor, Seneca Lodge, Brookside Gardens, Woodlawn Manor, or Ag Farm -- all for under $15K!

Laura Gosse, Marketing Specialist for the Montgomery County Department of Parks event centers said: "The Not-So-Big Wedding is the new reality for many brides and grooms as the effects of the recession continue to play out. However, small does not have to mean plain. The challenge teams' wedding displays will show couples how they can have a wedding day to remember without breaking the bank."

Team Carnavale has returned to defend its title. Eleven other teams will strive to take it away. Come see the results and meet Team Bijou, Team Cannon, Team Centino, Team Cinful, and Team Crazy in Love, Team Forbidden Fruit, Team Intercounty Wedding Connection, Team Jackson, Team Matrimony, Team Show, and Team Williams.

The panel of judges led by Joyce Mnkande of Events2Remember, Inc. includes Denise Thorne of In Style Caterers, Julie Upchurch of Little House of Flowers, Andrew Larris of Andy Kushner Entertainment, Janice Harrison of Occasional Cakes, LLC, Dave Fritz of CORT Event Furnishings, and Carmichael Jennings of On Que Photography. Accompanying them will be live bloggers Amy Regeti and her colleague Srinu of Regeti’s Photography.

This year’s panel of judges represents the different areas within the industry and each judge brings their knowledge and expertise in those areas. Judging criteria will be based on the creative use of given space, creative use of budget, level of elegance and most memorable display.

There will be a fashion show featuring affordable gowns, which can be purchased from St. Anthony's Bridal, a local non-profit whose mission is to help people have an affordable wedding.

So, mark your calendars, come on along, and have lots of fun, food, and refreshments!

Sunday, November 7th, 2010 from 1-4pm at

Rockwood Manor

11001 MacArthur Blvd

Potomac, MD 20854

Google Maps Directions

See you there!

Insurance Coverage: To Have, or Not to Have?

I thought that this would be a great topic to cover because Fall is officially here and old Mr. Winter will soon be popping his head out; and if this winter is anything like last years' that resulted in numerous event cancellations, you do not want be unprepared!

Whether you are in the special event industry or any other business, it is imperative to protect your business and have insurance coverage especially in today’s litigious society where lawsuits are on the rise with every dawn. We can face potential lawsuits from customers, contractors, attendees, and spectators. Even if the lawsuit is unfounded, the cost of defense will be expensive.

Although the special event planning industry appears to be a glamorous job, it is unfortunately quite the contrary; it is a very hectic, tiring, and occasionally a very trying job. God forbid if some unfortunate mishap ensues and the event planner is sued! It is therefore imperative that everyone in the event management industry carry General Liability and E&O coverage. The latter is sometimes debatable but I personally feel it is essential.

Coverage typically protects against liability claims for bodily injuries, property damage, cancellation, rescheduling, or any accidents that might occur from the set-up time, to during the event, and during the breakdown at the end of the event.

Image from www.intheiropinion.com

However, just as with other insurance policies, event insurance coverage must be carefully selected. Shop around to compare rates and plans and make sure you ask many questions, read through your policies to fully understand your coverage and read the fine print! Be sure that you are covered for the entire management process and/or tailor it to your specific needs. Apply the same steps as you would when purchasing your health insurance, life insurance and/or other benefits. If you cannot afford an annual coverage, some agencies have à la carte options. Whatever package you select, having insurance coverage will not only give you peace of mind but also protect you from setting yourself up for lawsuits that will lead you down bankruptcy lane.

Selecting the Date for Your Next Event

When planning any event, many factors have to be taken into consideration, as they can affect the outcome of the event. Sometimes these factors work in your favor, and other times they do not. However, in order to plan a successful event, here is a short list of some key considerations:

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• Major Holidays
• Religious Observations
• The Season
• Time - daylight savings time changes (you don't want your guests to forget and arrive an hour early/late!) and availability
• Superstitions - Friday the 13th, April Fools Day (4/01)
• September 11th - this date (9/11) will be forever etched in the minds of many Americans as a day of mourning.
• Sporting events - especially during Superbowl weekend, World Cup, World Series, etc. 

Sometimes planning an event for a holiday weekend may work well for out-of-town guests who won't have to take extra time off work to travel for your event. However, many people like to spend these holidays with their families, so just be mindful of the date that you choose. Just an example of how some of these dates may or may not work in your favor...

"Day of" vs. "Month of" Coordinating/Plannning Services

Semantics or not … here’s yet another debatable topic.

First, although it appears as such, it is important to understand that an event planner is not a party planner and is definitely not simply a decorator. They are professional event planners because they have the education, the resources, the experience, the network, and reliable alliances in the industry.

The professional planner focuses on the client’s objective and ensures it is seamlessly achieved by paying attention to all the details that lead up to the event for all weddings, corporate, social and fundraising events.

We must therefore understand both the definition and the nature of work associated with the different titles used in the industry:

1. Event Planner: A professional who plans special events and is responsible for the event from conceptualization to orginization and execution of the entire event. They will custom design the event and make appropriate suggestions and recommendations based on the clients vision, needs and budget. They will assist with venue searches and acquisition, vendor referals and recommendations, ettiquette advisement, budget advisement and maintenance, logisitcs maintenance, make, and implement design recommendations and assist with menu recommendations and selection. They will also ensure that the client complies with all state and federal legalities for any licenses and permits that may be required for the event as well as ensure that all political and social protocols are adhered to.

Planners will have several meetings with their client throughout the planning process, they are not only there during set-up, but are there from beginning to end to of the event to handle any problems that may arise, and oversee the breakdown as well. These are just a few of the many responsibilities of a professional special event planner.

2. Event Consultant: The American Heritage dictionary defines consultant as "one who gives expert advice." In the event planning industry, consulting and planning are in most cases synonyms of each other with minor differences in what their "comprehensive" package offers.

3. Event Coordinator: A coordinator orchestrates the event. However, it is a miss-conception and a miss understanding that a coordinator just shows up on the day of the event and "makes things happen." Typically, the coordinator will have a specific number of meetings (contractual agreement) with their client, get a list of all the vendors and their contacts, construct a time line, have a vendor rehearsal, and finally execute the event on the day of. Yes, a planner/consultant can also be a coordinator.

Now that we have clarified the definition and responsibilities of a planner, is "Day of" or "Month of" the proper "term" for this service? Or, should we coin a different term/phrase for it? Remember, most event professionals will not take on “Day of” jobs less than 3-4 months prior to the event. Therefore, "Month of" may be more fitting regarding the scope of the services. What do you think?

"Newbies" and "Wannabes"

As of January 2010, this has become the new “hot topic” in many articles, blogs, and networking discussions in the event planning industry. However, this topic is not specific to event planners only, but to everyone in the event industry from caterers to florists, from deejays to photographers, from videographers to designers, and from coordinators to consultants.

Although this is not a new phenomenon, in the recent years we are really seeing an influx of emerging planners. Is it due to the current economic conditions or the hype of the industry being a glitzy and glamorous one? Clearly, without truly understanding the hard work and details that go into planning an event, one sees the final product and assumes that it is an easy and glamorous career.

First, let us differentiate the term “Newbies” from “Wannabes.” A “Newbie” refers to newcomers into the industry. Typically, they have the education; they may or may not have some practicum hours under their belt and are in their first year in business. A “Wannabe,” on the other hand, has done nothing much towards establishing themselves as real professionals, has no education and usually has minimal or no experience in the industry

I would like to emphasize that seasoned planners have nothing against “Newbies.” After all, all planners were once “Newbies” themselves.

Are they driving down the price structure? Yes, they probably are, and undercutting prices is a major problem. However, remember the saying, "What you pay, is what you get,” and consequently, seasoned planners should not feel that they have to compromise their brand and/or service parameters because of fear of losing a potential client to a “Newbie” or “Wannabe.” Another major concern to seasoned planners is when some “Newbies” and “Wannabes” blatantly copy/lift contents (verbatim) and pictures from their websites and use it as their own.

The truth is, it is not so much the threat or fear of the influx of “Newbies” and “Wannabes” that is the main concern for seasoned planners, but the lowering prices and standards and the blatant use of other planners ‘sweat and blood’ by some of these “Newbies” and “Wannabes.” What do you think?

Wedding Song Choices

Wedding season is upon us and like everything else in the process, song selection is an equally important part.

The First Dance:
For some couples, selecting the song for their first dance is easy because they have “their song,” while for others it may be a daunting task. So, how does a couple select their song for their first dance from the endless myriads of song choices available today?
Photo courtesy of www.16-strings.com

This is a very personal but imperative process. The most important factor to take into consideration when choosing any song is that the song has to be meaningful to you as a couple. It can have sentimental value or it can simply be something fun. Whatever it is, make sure you both like the song. Do not choose a song because it is popular or because other people will like it; your wedding day is about the two of you and not the other people. Additionally, although traditionally the first dance is a slow tempo, it doesn't have to be! Nor does it have to be one song, it can be a medley of songs.

Another important consideration is the lyrics of the song. Many couples pick “popular” songs without really understanding the lyrics and meaning of the song. One needs to take time to listen and understand the lyrics because there are times when lyrics have undertones and connotations subject to different interpretations. If you are not sure of the lyrics of a song, Google them!

Finally, do not pick a song that you will be uncomfortable dancing in the presence of parents and grandparents.

Whatever the choice, it has to be “yours” and remember that people will associate it as “your” song whenever they hear it.

Examples of song choices to be mindful of when selecting your first dance:

• My Heart Will Go On (Titanic soundtrack) by Celine Dion … it is indeed about endless love but after the other person has died.

• Lady in Red (Soundtrack) by Chris De Burgh is really about a prostitute. In a real life story of the 1930’s, this was the color worn by a prostitute when she went to the movies with her “date” (a dangerous criminal named John Herbert Dillinger ) to help police identify/capture him leading to his death.

• Every Breath You Take by Sting seems very ‘stalkerish’ if you really listen to the words.

Although optional, many couples have other dances as part of their wedding reception and it is therefore equally important that these song selections be appropriate as well. Examples:

The Grand Entrance song:
This song is played when the bridal party and the couple make their “grand entrance” into the reception area. This can be anything from traditional to a non-traditional upbeat song. For some, this leads into the couples first dance.
Father-Daughter song:
As the title suggests, this is the dance between the bride and her father.
The cake cutting song:
This is optional but some couples like to have a song – either another one of “their” songs or an upbeat song.
The song for bouquet and garter tossing:
Again, be sure to select the appropriate song to encourage participation.
The bridal party dance song:
This is usually the last of the formal dance songs before the party begins and includes the entire bridal party.
The last dance song:
This can be the last dance for the night or it can be the last dance song for the bride and groom as they leave the reception while the guest continue to celebrate.

Have fun and select wisely!

The Odyssey Cruise - Washington, DC

If you haven’t already seen it already, this is a fabulous venue to host your next event! Welcome aboard the Odyssey:

My colleagues and I had a wonderful networking event with a wide selection of beverages, a variety of hor’s d’ouvres, a choice of entrees (selection of three), and exceptional service. If you need assistance with planning your next event aboard the Odyssey in Washington, DC, do not hesitate to contact us at 301-317-4411 or info@events-2remember.com

"What to Do with Leftover Wedding Food?"

I recently read a blog article via Slashfood that highlighted some practical uses for leftover wedding food. The article is from last June, but I couldn't resist sharing! Here's a brief synopsis:

"Most caterers will over-estimate the amount of food you'll need for your happy nuptials... So what do you do with all of those leftovers? You've paid for the food, and it really is a shame to see it go to waste."

I find that this is often the case with functions (whether it be a wedding or any other special event) that offer a buffet selection instead of a sit-down dinner. The article suggests donating the food to a local food bank, or allowing your out-of-town guests to pack a "doggy bag" to take back to their hotel room. Overall, I thought the brief article made a great point and you should try to keep these options in mind if you find yourself faced with the dilemma of too much food!

Be sure to check out the original article here!

RSVP Etiquette

The Meaning: The term RSVP comes from the French expression “réspondez s’il vous plaît,” which means “please respond.”

What it does not mean: RSVP does not mean, “respond only if you are coming,” nor does it mean, “respond only if you are not coming.” “Regrets only” is the term for the latter instance.

The Importance of RSVP: responding to an invitation assists in --
• Planning for minimum requirements for hotel room blocks
• Planning for banquet halls and breakout room requirements
• Planning for printed material
• Planning for place settings
• Determining the number of servers and bartenders required
• Planning for food and beverage quantities
• Planning for swag bags and/or party favors
• Determining dance floor size requirements
• Floor plan layout
• Finalizing programs
and much, much more…

6 RSVP Etiquette Tips:
1. If an invitation includes an RSVP, all guests are obligated to respond by the specified date on the invitation.
2. If there is no “reply by” date, the general rule of thumb is to respond within 24 to 48 hours of receipt.
3. If a social invitation does not include an RSVP, it is still considered polite to respond accordingly.
4. All business and/or non-profit events require a response. If you are making a charitable contribution but not attending the event, RSVP appropriately and do not attend unannounced.
5. In keeping with today’s Greening efforts to reduce our carbon footprint, an invitation may come via email (try Evite). You are still obligated to respond within 24 to 48 hours of receipt if there is no "reply by" date.
6. For the more formal events that choose to send invitations via snail mail but opt to set up an RSVP online (try My RSVP Live), telephone, or a personalized website, be sure to respond within 24 to 48 hours of receipt if there is no "reply by" date.

Who Should RSVP?:
1. If you are sending a representative(s) to corporate and non-profit events, the RVSP should specify whom and/or how many are attending on your behalf.
2. For social and private events, all invitees must RSVP.
3. If the invitation allows for extra guests, and you intend on bringing additional people, be sure to indicate how many extra people will be accompanying you. Typically, it is polite to add no more than 2 extra people per invitation.

Final Tips:
• Be sure to communicate all last-minute changes.
• Be sure to communicate any conflicting events and respond by the specified date.
• Be sure to communicate any special dietary requirements well in advance. Remember, this is different from dietary preferences.
• Arrive on time.
• Dress appropriately and in keeping with the theme of the event. (i.e. Black-tie, formal, business etc.)
• Network and Enjoy!

Sample Invitations, RSVP cards, and favors:
(click on the text below the image to be linked to the sample's corresponding site)

wedding invitation and RSVP card

cocktail party invitation

themed party invitation

golf tournament invitation, RSVP card,
and thank you card

"Hand in Hand" eco-friendly server set & favor

"We Clicked" mouse pad wedding favor

plant favor in drawstring bag
made from 100% organic cotton

MILAN - Baltimore, Maryland

MILAN is Baltimore's first upscale, eclectic Italian Restaurant and Lounge and is located at the threshold of Baltimore’s Little Italy. The restaurant offers Italian/Mediterranean infused cuisine and boasts a one-of-a kind Sushi bar. Complimenting the menu is a selection of top rated Italian wines and cocktails inspired by world-renowned fashion designers. It has three levels and an outdoor patio for al fresco dining throughout the year, and is considered to be a premier venue, “Where food meets fashion!"

We were honored to be on the guest list last week and we really enjoyed the space, food and music. To sum it up: a beautiful, classy, sexy, and great addition to Baltimore, as this is something you would typically see in DC, New York, or California!

Here are some pictures of our time there:

Entrance

Lower Level Lounge Area

Intermezzo Coffee & Wine Bar

Restaurant AreaOutdoor Patio

MILAN would be perfect for a small, intimate event or a rehearsal dinner! Check them out!

Question of the Day: Posed by Sales Coach Saundra Hadley

"We all know it is important to acquire that client that will not only appreciate your services but reflect your company's brand. But we know that bills come in every month and you can't respond to your electric bill, "Sorry, my target client didn't hire me this month." So, what's a small business , fighting the poor economy and rising expenses to do?"

Her Advice:
1) First be sure you aren't lowering your "brand" standards so much that you are putting yourself and your business in jeopardy.
2) Do not work for free. Do not work for free. Do not work for free.
3) Set clear boundaries and limitations so that you will not be taken advantage of and still make a profit.
And,
4) Know that you are not alone. Not every wedding is dripping with Phalaenopsis orchids and crystals from the ceiling. But it is okay.

I totally agree with Ms. Hadley. This holds true for any event type: be it a corporate, wedding, social or private event and, is even more prevalent in today's economy as budgets are lowered but expectations are still high. So, what is the solution? This is where our expertise and creativity as Special Event Planners comes into play.

Your thoughts?

Remarriages: Trends, Etiquette, and Resources

Remarriage Trends

These days, remarriages after divorce is more common. According to a 2002 study by the U.S. National Center for Health Statistics, statistics show:

• 54 percent of divorced women remarry within 5 years
• 75 percent of divorced women remarry within 10 years
• Black women are the least likely to remarry
• White women are the most likely to remarry

However, a new 2007 report from the U.S. Census Bureau shows that in 2004 (the year of the study):
• 12 percent of men and 13 percent of women had married twice
• 3 percent each had married three or more times
• 58 percent of women and 54 percent of men 15 and older had married only once

Social stigma dictates that second marriages should not be formal, extravagant or elaborate celebrations, but rather quiet and small ones. The importance should be placed in the fact that it is still the celebration of the union of two people who have found one another, love each other, and have a chance at life filled with joy, happiness, and that “happily ever after” that everyone deserves.

Second Marriage Etiquette Guidelines:

This may vary from one culture to another.
Please remember to be respectful of all traditions.

• Announcements: before officially and formerly announcing the engagement, it is important that if there are children involved, they should be the first to know. Followed by parents and the ex-spouse. Then, if the couple so chooses, via the newspaper, email or engagement party.

• Engagement Party: no rules, although typically not hosted by the parents or the couple. Most couples choose to have a small intimate dinner out with friends and family instead of having a party.

• Invitations: these can be simple, or elegant and elaborate but should be in theme with the wedding style.

• Whom to invite: etiquette dictates that the former in-laws and ex-spouses, no matter how close they may be, should not be invited.

• Bridal Showers: this is optional and again, there are no hard and fast rules; but it is recommended that it be small and intimate affair for very close friends. As in the first marriage, only those attending the ceremony and reception should be invited to the shower. Do not invite anyone that isn’t invited to the wedding. It is typically hosted by the bridal party. Those invited to the first wedding shower should not be invited to the second and if they are, they are not obligated to bring a gift.

• Gift Giving: these couples are typically already established in life and have accumulated more things than those in their first marriage. If they have not registered and already have a house, it is advisable to give them elegant crystal or china or make a donation to their favorite charity.

• The Wedding Dress: there is no hard and fast rule about not wearing a wedding dress and with the infinite choices available these days, there are many styles to choose from. Remember, it is your day and you want to look beautiful. Th bride can wear any color even white, as it no longer only symbolizes purity.

• Bridal party: it is optional, not necessary, to have attendants, a processional, or someone to walk you down the aisle.

• Rehearsal Dinner: optional.

• Ceremonies and Vows: can be civil or religious. If both bride and groom have children, be sure to involve them in the ceremony if they want to be included. There are many unique ways to incorporate children in the wedding for example: lighting a family unity candle versus the traditional one, unity sand pouring ceremony, escort down the aisle, being one of the attendants or doing a reading, and more. You can personalize your vows to include the children, if you have any. If it is a religious ceremony, be sure to check with your officiant as to what might be different from the first marriage vows.

• Reception: can be as simple or as elaborate as you wish. Many couples choose to omit the tossing of the bouquet and garter. The receiving line includes the couple and their children, if they have any. Some of the more traditional toasts may be omitted.

• Honeymoon: yes, you may still go on a honeymoon. If both couples have children, you might like to consider a honeymoon that will include the children -- a “FamilyMoon,” a term coined back in 2004. The latter has been a growing trend for many couples who want honeymoons to include their children, which makes for good bonding experiences. Many foreign and domestic destinations are now family-inclusive. For example, beach resorts in Negril, Turks & Caicos, St. Lucia and Antigua to name a few. Other options are to take a Disney or other similar cruise and/or find domestic locations. For more info, go to: www.adventuresbydisney.com, www.austinlehman.com, www.beaches.com, www.butterfield.com, www.carnival.com, www.disneycruise.com, www.ncl.com, www.princess.com, www.eliteislandresorts.com, www.winjammer-landing.com.

In a nutshell: make it the most memorable and enjoyable day of the beginning of your happily forever after.

Resources for the blended family:

• Break the Cycle
• Bonus Families
• Changing Focus
• Institute for Family Education
• National Family Resiliency Center
• National Stepfamily Resource Center
• The National Fathers' Resource Center
• The Stepfamily Foundation
• StepMom Magazine
• ShareKids.com

The Color of the Year -- 2010

Color is very personal. Everyone has a favorite color and can relate to it from the time they were little children. Certain emotions are associated with color, and planners and designers know that using color is very important to create that “bang” or “pop” you are looking for when you walk into a room. First, I'd like to go over the basics of color before I reveal Pantone's Color of the Year for 2010.

As you may remember from elementary school, there are three main categories of color:

1. Primary colors: red, yellow, and blue. These are pure and cannot be created through the mixing of any other colors.

2. Secondary colors: orange, purple, and green. These are produced by mixing of primary colors. i.e. yellow + blue = green; blue + red = purple; and red + yellow = orange.

3. Tertiary colors: A combination of primary and secondary colors. There are six tertiary colors: red-orange, yellow-orange, yellow-green, blue-green, blue-violet, and red-violet.

Additionally, colors fall into three schematic groups:

1. Monochromatic colors: all colors, tints and shades of a single hue. They go well together, are easy on the eyes, and have a soothing effect.

2. Analogous colors: these are in close proximity to each other on the color wheel and always made up of three colors, the main one being red, plus two neighboring colors. They are similar in hue and saturation.

3. Complimentary colors: usually comprised of two colors that are opposite of the color wheel and are high in contrast.

The Color Wheel
Image courtesy of Northlite

So, who comes up with the color trends from year to year, you ask?

Pantone, Inc. in Carlstadt, New Jersey is the company known for its Pantone Matching System® (PMS), a book of standardized colors in fan format for color-coding. The Pantone name is known worldwide as the standard language for accurate color communication, from designer to manufacturer to retailer to customer, across a variety of industries.

According to Pantone, "PANTONE® 15-5519 Turquoise, an inviting, luminous hue, [is] the color of the year for 2010. Combining the serene qualities of blue and the invigorating aspects of green, Turquoise evokes thoughts of soothing, tropical waters and a languorous, effective escape from the everyday troubles of the world, while at the same time restoring our sense of wellbeing."

For brides wanting a flattering choice for attendant apparel and accessories on their big day, Turquoise is now one of the nearly 200 PANTONE WEDDING Colors available from Dessy, a leading manufacturer of bridesmaid, social occasion and flower girl dresses, as well as destination wedding gowns under the labels Dessy Collection, After Six, Alfred Sung, Lela Rose Bridesmaid and Sandals Destination Wedding Dresses. PANTONE WEDDING exclusively from Dessy provides a collection of color tools to make it easy for brides to achieve perfectly color-coordinated weddings – from inspiration to “I do.”

Additionally, Turquoise is one of 3,000 colors available in Pantone’s line of superior-quality, eco-friendly paint. PANTONE Paints combine the accuracy of PANTONE Colors with the beauty of high-performance Dutch paints. Perfect for a powder room or bedroom, Turquoise is an evocative, spa-like hue that adds an undertone of warmth and excitement to any cool space. In the kitchen, Turquoise adds a unique flare to tabletop and appliances. I love this years' color!

ISES iDEA Expo

Despite November 29th being a cold, rainy and dreary day, it did not deter people from attending the ISES (International Special Events Society) iDEA 2009 Expo at the Bethesda North Marriott Hotel & Conference Center. It was a great success and a lot of fun!

The event kicked off at 4:00pm with a couple of informational presentations: "The Anatomy of an Award-Winning Event" and "West Coast to East Coast trends," followed by the trade show floor opening at 6:00pm. This year’s trade show was slightly different from last years' show -- interspersed among the traditional exhibit booths were four Design Centers, which were complete destinations crafted and outfitted by a team of ISES vendors. The four centers included Cafe Paris, "On the Road" in the USA, Green Road to Cairo, and Havana Nights, and the featured products and displays of creativity made for an excellent exhibit! The Design Centers carried this year’s theme: International iDEAs, Connecting the World One Event at a Time. Here are some shots of the four centers:

It was indeed a night of fun and learning! However, I cannot end this piece without mentioning Fired Up Pizza on the Move! Again, despite Mother Nature, they had freshly baked pizzas going all night! Simply delicious!

November Events

1. November 3rd: I attended a showcase hosted by Heidi Berger of Room Service at the fabulous Long View Gallery Art Museum in Washington, DC. Here are some pictures of the wonderful furniture rentals off of their brand new line!

2. November 4th: I toured the new Sunset Room at the National Harbor in Washington, DC. This is a wonderful venue with some beautiful views -- perfect for a wedding!





3. November 8th: I participated in the Not-So-Big Wedding Competition! The competition was hosted by the Montgomery County Department of Parks & Recreation at the Rockwood Manor in Potomac, Maryland. The challenge was to plan a wedding on a budget -- accommodating 65 guests for less than $15,000. The judge's panel was moderated by Ellen McCarthy of the Washington Post's Wedding Section and panelist included newlyweds who have successfully planned a wedding under $15K. It was a wonderful experience for my entire team, as it was our first competition. Here are some pictures of our table:





I will post more pictures from the competition once I receive the rest from our team photographer!

Enjoy the remainder of your weekend!